Before the Intro

Remember Friday’s post about “Doubting Everyone”?

Friendships have been on my mind lately. It started with a book. After that, one thought led to another, punctuated by events in my life. All that thinking and searching lead me to outline a series of posts on friendship. I will talk more about the series on October 1st, but for now I wanted to let you know about the book that got it all rolling.

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Doubting Everyone

Five Minute Friday is a link-up where you free write for 5 minutes on the topic. This week’s topic is Doubt. Find other blogger’s interpretations here.

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Doubt.

Though the focus of this word often refers to doubting God, today I am digging into another issue.

I doubt other people’s sincerity. When people compliment me, my mind races to figure out what they are trying to get out of me. All these years, I never believe my dad when he tells me how beautiful I am. Isn’t he just saying that to look like a good parent? Acquaintances ask me questions and I suspect them of getting info to gossip about me.

I just doubt other people’s intentions. Why?
Maybe because
-I doubt my own intentions and decisions (when I have trusted people before, they turned out to hurt me)
-I doubt my ability to be a good friend (so I push people away before I can hurt them)

Basically it’s my problem. I don’t want the wool pulled over my eyes again. I will forgo relationships to make sure that I am not the fool again. But in doing so, I think I am fooling myself.

I don’t want to hurt people! I don’t want to make a mistake, but I will- because I am human and flawed and so are they. Instead of using flaws as a reason to end a friendship, perhaps that is the very place a relationship can be made strong.

Of course people make mistakes. Humans have selfish tendencies. Humans lie, gossip, and break trust. There are humans, however, who don’t let this be a rule. When they break trust, it is an exception to how they normally are. And if they have hurt their friend, they move to fix it.

That is what makes a true friend, which is someone I want to be. Not someone who never makes mistakes, but realizes that we do, then goes to reconcile the mistake. That is friendship.

So maybe I need to stop letting my doubts about people control me. I need to give them grace, and give myself grace as well.

At least, that is what the word “doubt” brings to my mind.

Foster Grandmas

I have three grandmas. One is my mom’s mother, one is my father’s mother, and one is my “adopted” granny. Not to confuse you; it is not a legal adoption. It is our sweet way of saying how much we love each other and what type of role we play in each other’s lives. Fitting for my family, right? Since my family takes in foster children, these women get to be “foster grandmas”. It is a role they all embrace and fulfill in their own way.

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Take Strength and Remember

“Just remember, life will not always be this way.”

A wise woman told me that.

It is like a breath of fresh air in the midst of busyness. Not that I do not know the promises of God or do not see how He sustains me. I know all that. The phrase just helps me in the day-to-day moments, when I have a long to-do list and an ohmygoodness-I-forgot-the-pot-of-boiling-water-on-the-stove type of morning.

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